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Why the Parts of You That Feel the Worst Deserve the Most Love Starting with the uncomfortable truth What I want to explore today is something that sounds simple when you first hear it, but becomes incredibly challenging when you actually try to live it. It’s this idea that the parts of us we feel the most contempt, shame, or disgust toward are actually the parts that most need our love and kindness. And for most of us, that goes against everything we’ve been taught. The part

Do you find yourself stuck thinking about what people think of you? Replaying conversations, imagining reactions, going over it again and again? It’s exhausting. And somewhere inside, you probably know it’s not really helping. But it’s not something you can just switch off. So what’s going on? What It Looks Like This can be small, like a slightly awkward moment with a stranger that you can’t stop thinking about. Or more personal, like something in a relationship where you fee

Today, I want to explore the role of humility in healing childhood trauma and why it’s surprisingly helpful, important, and a virtue worth developing and nurturing in this process. Humility is a complicated word. We often carry very fixed ideas about what it means. On social media you’ll see things like a cocky YouTuber getting humbled by an MMA fighter. Humility gets framed as arrogance being crushed. Someone gets put back in their place. There’s also the link between humili

The subject we're exploring today is why the parts of us we hold most contempt and disdain are worthy of the most love and kindness. This is a subject that is very much easier said than done. The idea of loving the parts of ourselves that we feel disgust or real contempt toward is deeply challenging. But often we end up in a place where we have no choice but to try. And there is a counterintuitive irony here: it is not until we love these parts of ourselves that we can actual